My March started out a little different than most, I was going to be a surrogate for the second time!! I was so excited, I had been matched with the perfect couple, they got along with not only me, but my entire family!! Which is extremely important when carrying a child for someone else! But going into it would never prepare me for what was about to happen!!
I have been fairly healthy my whole life, I have two children and a loving husband. Sure I have had issues with certain things throughout life, but who doesn't! So I wanted to help someone be as happy as I have been and was lucky enough to be. In 2006 I spoke with my husband and we decided we were going to help others have their family! I signed up, after quite a bit of talking and research, to become an egg donor!! Shortly after signing up I was an egg donor twice! I loved it and it was very successful!! Then in 2008, my husband and I had met a wonderful couple that couldn't have children, and asked us to be their surrogate! We talked about it again, spoke with our children about it, our family members, and doctors.... It was an easy decision! We went ahead with the surrogacy and I delivered an adorable little boy in 2009! It was one of the most amazing experiences that I could have ever experienced! So it was only natural to want to do it again!! The same couple decided that they wanted to have another baby, so we went ahead and did another transfer in October, unfortunately it didn't take and the couple could not afford to try it again. We were then contacted by another couple to do a surrogacy for them. We met them in January, and decided it was a good fit!! Since we were seeing a different doctor for this, he had decided to do an entire checkup on me, even though I just had everything checked in October.
I went in to the doctor in March, had all of my blood work, a pap, and a regular physical done. Everything seemed to be good! Until two weeks later when the doctor called and said, I'm sorry we cannot go further until you see your regular doctor! Well, what the heck doe stat mean?! He had said I had some abnormal cells on my cervix. Oh, that's it, is what I thought, so we just need to wait it out and I'll be fine, it will just take a little longer than expected! So I made an appointment right away with my GYN doctor, and the re-tested, and it too came back abnormal, so we did further testing called a colposcopy. During this test, there were cells that stood out too the doctor, so he took a couple samples and biopsies them. Now, now we waited two weeks!! Yes, two weeks for results!! At this time it was already mid-April... And finally after waiting two long weeks I got a call from the doctor! Finally, I thought, now we can continue on with the surrogacy! Only, what he said was NOT at allow what I expected! Jessica, he said, you have Cervical Cancer, we can not continue with the surrogacy and need to talk about your next steps to clear this up! What?! Seriously!? How, why, when! It isn't possible, I was just checked in October!!
After the initial shock, I was then ready to do whatever I could to ensure that I would not have to deal with this again, because unfortunately this was the second time! The first time I had cervical cancer was in 2004 right after I had my daughter! They did a Leep, and put me on a low Dose of oral Chemo to treat it because they knew I wanted more children! This time, however I knew if I could not have children for other people, my husband and I were done, so I just wanted EVERYTHING out! Unfortunately, I have VA insurance, and not one doctor would do this! I was too young, 28, to do this! So the next step was a partial Hysterectomy! So May 1st, I went in for a partial. I was devastated, but at the same time knew that the more surgery done, the better my chances were of it not returning!! During this time the doctor started doing and in depth check up on me. I had pointed out that I had a knot above my right breast that was a little sore. He looked at it and said, oh that's no big deal, looks like a cyst, but why don't we go ahead and do a mammogram! Then we have an initial to go off of in the future! Sounds good to me! So we went in and did the mammo, and they came back and said, well you have really dense breast tissue and it makes it hard to read, so why don't we go ahead and get an MRI with contrast! Ummm, okay....so an MRI was done. I didn't hear anything back for a few weeks so, I thought, great now they have a basis to start with later in life, and things were just fine! :) WRONG!! I get a call three weeks later and they tell me, I have a lump on my left breast that Warrants a Biopsy, because it is typical shape and look of a cancerous tumor! WHAT?!?! Are your flipping serious!!?? Whatever!! Just do the damn biopsy then! Long story short, biopsy was done, it came back inconclusive, so they requested to do another biopsy, I refused and told them to take the whole lump! They agreed, and sent me in for a lumpectomy, that which took two weeks again, yes, two weeks! And then the doctor called, and it was positive,for Breast Cancer! What?! I am only 28!! It was at that point, my life changed, forever!
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